Sunday, January 27, 2013

Repairing the Breach

Have you ever had a family member or friend suddenly break off a relationship with you? Perhaps you didn’t even realize that it was happening until after your tenth phone call, text, and voicemail—that you were being kicked to the curb. (Bummer!) A breach or  break in the relationship happened and you aren’t sure what to do about it.

Do you keep trying to get in touch with them even though you feel like you’re becoming a stalker?

Do you assume the worst—that someone who has been close to you is now your enemy?

Do you make excuses for them—they are just too busy?

What to do?

First, begin with forgiving your friend. Whether it is intentional or unintentional, choose to forgive and trust in God to restore the friendship if possible.

Secondly, reflect over your friendship…was there a time that you missed the boat and leaned too hard on a friend? Or perhaps you offended them in word or deed? You could always send a note by snail mail in hopes of clearing the air if necessary.

Lastly, pray for your friend. God knows everything and you must trust in Him to “work all things for your good”. (Romans 8:28) Sometimes a break in a relationship may be necessary for God to grow you up and help you to lean on Him more than anyone else.

Can’t we all just get along?

Well…maybe not in this lifetime. We can love each other. We can forgive each other. We can accept that sometimes life and seasons of friendships change.

Bottom line—time heals all wounds and everyone must move on. God can use this breach of a friendship to grow you closer to Him. He is the ultimate Repairer of the Breach for all people. Through faith in Jesus you can be restored to a life of joy, peace, and unconditional love. Try talking to Him today. He will never cut you off!

Scripture Reference: The New International Version. 2011. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.


  1. Nice reminder here Crystal. Friendship is a delicate thing. It requires cultivation and continual communication. I love how you said to start with forgiveness. In fact, all of your tips are great. The Scripture that popped into my head when I read this post is "A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother" (Prov 18:24) I believe that friend is Jesus.

    Well now I want to sing ♪♫ What a friend we have in Jesus ... ♫♪

    Love your blog, simple and encouraging.

  2. I so agree with Pamela. The way you said that we can just talk to Him today and He will never cut you off is so refreshing. He is our Heavenly Father and why would He not lend an ear and hear us? I look forward to reading your blogs or articles on What Christians Want to Know Crystal.

  3. I appreciate your words of encouragement. I enjoyed your writing as well especially how graciously you answer your comments. I look to learn from you.

  4. I love the way that you write Crystal, refreshing, filled with truth and love. You are so right that there are seasons, but the greatest test of those seasons are waiting on God. Today they have chosen not to call or see me, but there is a Friend that sticks closer than and brother Proverbs 18:24. It is during those times that we MUST stay close to that FRIEND (Christ our Lord) or we will dispair instead of walking by faith.