Sunday, January 27, 2013

Repairing the Breach

Have you ever had a family member or friend suddenly break off a relationship with you? Perhaps you didn’t even realize that it was happening until after your tenth phone call, text, and voicemail—that you were being kicked to the curb. (Bummer!) A breach or  break in the relationship happened and you aren’t sure what to do about it.

Do you keep trying to get in touch with them even though you feel like you’re becoming a stalker?

Do you assume the worst—that someone who has been close to you is now your enemy?

Do you make excuses for them—they are just too busy?

What to do?

First, begin with forgiving your friend. Whether it is intentional or unintentional, choose to forgive and trust in God to restore the friendship if possible.

Secondly, reflect over your friendship…was there a time that you missed the boat and leaned too hard on a friend? Or perhaps you offended them in word or deed? You could always send a note by snail mail in hopes of clearing the air if necessary.

Lastly, pray for your friend. God knows everything and you must trust in Him to “work all things for your good”. (Romans 8:28) Sometimes a break in a relationship may be necessary for God to grow you up and help you to lean on Him more than anyone else.

Can’t we all just get along?

Well…maybe not in this lifetime. We can love each other. We can forgive each other. We can accept that sometimes life and seasons of friendships change.

Bottom line—time heals all wounds and everyone must move on. God can use this breach of a friendship to grow you closer to Him. He is the ultimate Repairer of the Breach for all people. Through faith in Jesus you can be restored to a life of joy, peace, and unconditional love. Try talking to Him today. He will never cut you off!

Scripture Reference: The New International Version. 2011. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.